Hi, I’ve been meaning to write this post for a couple of months. A mixture of not wanting to jinx things, plus not wanting to upset anyone has stopped me. I know some will have stopped reading already and probably unfollowed me (and I don’t blame you) but I know others who are looking for hope will be heartened by this.
A quick summary: we had our first DEIVF transfer on 27 February, a very relaxed transfer in a private clinic. On the way home we saw a rainbow and I had this intense feeling of joy and knowledge that everything will be ok somehow (even if it didn’t work). It’s hard to explain, but instead of my usual worries and positive/negative daily cycles in previous rounds I was a lot more calm this time and just decided to be happy and positive. I found it a lot less tiring. Don’t get me wrong, I was still mentally preparing myself for failure (researching holidays, booking weekends away etc) but just remaining cheerful and thinking of that rainbow. Because well why not?
I tested at 5am on my official test day and got a blazing positive. I woke up my husband who had been really down the night before and gave him the good news. Then followed a few days of betas and anxious waiting (after my two chemicals last year this was the toughest bit). They came back really high. Another anxious wait followed for the first scan which was perfect, followed by several more. And then getting to the 12 week mark, with nausea, morning sickness and intense work (it’s been a bit of a blur to be honest).
We’re now at nearly 15 weeks (ultrasound below from 12 weeks) and we’ve got our second prenatal appointment tomorrow. Things are starting to real!
I will continue this blog, exploring the experience of being pregnant after infertility, and of DEIVF. I wish everyone the best of luck on your journeys and I want to keep following and cheering and crying and supporting you.
Infertility has changed me and my husband profoundly. It’s beaten and battered us, but we’re still standing and still living, and loving, and that’s the most important thing.
Yay!!! Oh wow. I’m so happy for you 🙂 I had wondered how you were getting on, so I’m so pleased to read that it’s good news. Best of luck over the coming months. I look forward to reading your updates x x x
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Thanks so much! Hope you are well atoo XXX
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Congrats! Wishing you all the best! XO
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Thanks so much XXX
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The best news – huge congratulations! There’s hope out there for everyone xx
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Thanks so much! XXX
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I’m so happy for you!! Congrats!! ❤
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Thank you!
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Oh this is lovely to hear. Congratulations!!
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Thanks!!! How are you?
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I am really good. Still occasionally scared but so very grateful to be here and getting fatter by the day 🙂
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I know the feeling!
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Very wonderful news. All the best!
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Thank you! XXX
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Yay! So happy to see this post. ❤
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Thank you!! How are you doing? You guys must be halfway through by now no?
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Yay, you confirmed! So very happy for you and fantastic it’s going so well. I can’t believe you’re out of the first trimester alread. Hope to be joining you soon. Xx
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I hope so too. Got everything crossed for you xxx
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YAY!!!!! Omg I am so happy for you! I was wondering what was going on with you lately! Congratulations!🎊🍾🎈🎉
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Thanks so much! How are you doing? You must be busy?!
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Omg so busy. I never thought I wouldn’t have time to write a blog post but it took me a month before I wrote about her birth! Haha
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What a great surprise to read this! I’m so happy for you. Congratulations.
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Thanks very much!
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Such amazing news! Congratulations and best wishes for a happy, healthy pregnancy! ❤
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Thanks so much! Hope you’re doing well. It looks like you are. XXX
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Congrats!!! So happy for you and DH and your BABY!!!
Best wishes!
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Thanks so much!! Hope you’re doing well. You must be very busy
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Soooo exciting!! Pregnancy after everything you’ve been through with infertility is tough!!! And I think some of the hardest is in those early weeks so I’d be interested to hear how you got on with those! I can absolutely understand no wanting to jinx things!! Wishing you all the best for your pregnancy ☺️
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Thanks so much! Got second prenatal appointment tomorrow and feeling weird calm. I guess infertility has taught me that I can’t change things. How are you doing? Hope all is well. I heard of the bombing last night and thought of you. What a crazy story. Feeling so lucky to be healthy and alive and taking each day as it comes.
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So happy to see this. Congratulations ❤
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Thanks! How are you doing?
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I’m so glad you posted!! Happy 2nd trimester! I’m so hoping to be where you are, this part is torture. Congratulations again, dear. xx
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Thanks! It’s getting a little bit easier but still can’t totally relax. And still getting sickness annoyingly. Oh well. Very happy for you too!
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Well I’d already seen your happy news on comments on other blogs, but wanted to properly congratulate you all the same! It’s great to hear a success story because that is what those of us still in the trenches are hoping and praying for. So it’s always great to see when it happens for one of us! I can imagine that it must have been an anxious ridden early few weeks getting betas and hoping it wouldn’t end in another chemical. Delighted you’ve made it safely into the second trimester now! I’m going to try your approach of staying positive during this IVF cycle x
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Thanks so much! I’ve got everything crossed for you. XXX
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Congratulations! What is DEIVF? (Or what does the DE stand for?)
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Thanks! It stands for donor egg
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Congratulations!!! 🎉
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Congratulations
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What a beautiful picture! Sending you best wishes and prayers! x
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Congratulations!
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